Quick Memo: It’s not about you! Unless you’re of course giving a speech, selling or marketing your brand – which just so happens to be you, amongst other things I'm sure. Anyways, hear me out for a minute...
People gravitate to those who can lift them up, keep them inspired, engaged and always learning. They tend to be attracted to those that enhance a feeling of happiness and comfort. For others to know if you even fit that role, it can’t be all about you. Selfish tendencies don’t allow room for giving – unless – you’re taking care of yourself first in order to provide to others (e.g. focusing on your visions/goals/health).
Navigating the path of paying attention to personal development, while also being able to share your gifts with those who either keep you in check or need your expertise, isn’t always clear. I’ve shut off some people unintentionally because I wanted to figure out what I wanted, without regards to what they had to say. When I want to reconnect, it’s a tougher and much more uncomfortable conversation to have. So what’s the simple solution to this? Listen. The key factor in any form of communication is being able to listen to what the other person has to say. If you’re not clear on something ask, without hesitation. Even if you think you’re clear on something, repeat it so you’re all on the same page.
It’s okay to be all about you, at times, but just make sure you’re doing it for the good of others as well. No one likes a closed-off, one-sided friend. The more open you are with others, the more the world opens for you. It all goes back to the feeling of fulfillment and gratitude, which is what I strive for at all times. So maybe, this is more of a make room for yourself…to grow…so that others can naturally help you along the way.
This is almost completely unrelated, but while writing this, I kept singing this song. As you were…